What is Tantra?
Tantra, more than any other teaching, is shrouded in myth and misunderstanding. Often, for us Westerners, it is not something that is only related to sexuality. This happened due to the fact that Tantra was taught in secret, and over the years different theories and teachings about this path were formed.
Shiva, an enlightened teacher who lived in India, is considered the founder of Tantra. 5,000 years ago, writing down 112 meditation techniques to explore states of consciousness.
From Sanskrit, Tantra means transformation and path. Tantra is not a religion. This is the path to love and the awakening of consciousness.
The essence of Tantra is that everything in a person is divine and necessary, and all this can be used for spiritual growth.
"The essence of Tantra is defined by one of its most popular symbols - the lotus. We enjoy the lotus flower. However, in order to bloom, the lotus also needs roots that grow from mud and mud. We cannot accept only the ring but not accept the root. A flower without roots is dead, it cannot grow. A person who claims to be filled with nothing but love, kindness, compassion, etc. doesn't seem very sure either. Like the lotus, we each have our own roots growing out of the mud. In other words, from something we'd be happy to pretend we don't have. Our fear, our sexuality, our anger, and many other things are that primordial energy that, like the lotus, we can lift up and transform into a flower. "
We can single out two main motives. One of them is spiritual growth. Another, much more mundane and more common is the search for love, self-awareness, sexuality, relationship harmony.
"It may seem strange that in our "sexualized" society, sexuality and freely expressed feelings remain one of the biggest prohibitions, fears, and taboos. Still, for many people, sexuality is a scary thing, and Tantra events are attended with both trepidation and curiosity. Even the very word "Tantra" provokes various ideas related to sex. Although people desire to experience themselves, live freely, enjoy their sexuality, they are also afraid. Sexuality is a delicate area and we often don't even realize how many wounds we carry around sex. And instead of accepting our sexuality as a fact, as an energy from which we draw strength, we begin to either deny it ("Sexuality doesn't matter to me, it's not in me at all and I don't care!") or overemphasize ("I don't care about anything but sex !"). In both cases, these are only poses, masks that hide deep pain. Often, what we feel (or rather, don't feel) we don't even directly associate with sexuality. It just seems that life is gray, tasteless and odorless, that it crawls by, and we only watch helplessly, without the strength to live, that we do not know what we would like to live for, where we have scattered our joy, vitality, creativity, that we cannot and do not want to live like this ..."
The way of Tantra is the way of Love.
When we can allow ourselves to be who we are. When can we taste Life without fear, shame and control. When we can feel joy just by drinking tea or just holding a loved one's hand. When do we live without waiting for anything and without taking anything, without forcing or obliging anyone. When we are relaxed, calm, joyful and creative regardless of external circumstances. When a relationship provides spiritual, physical, mental and emotional satisfaction. All this we can call Tantra. Seems simple? Yes, but here lies the big secret. Being simple is not that simple at all...
What brings people in Tantra ?
What we will do in Tantra ?
· We grew up crawling myriop through life. Our everyday life is accompanied by a depressed mood, apathy, anxiety, helplessness, pessimism, sadness, lack of meaning... Men have become apathetic, insensitive, depressed, lacking self-confidence, lack the strength to strive, fight, not give up, take care of themselves and women. And women are angry, tired, dissatisfied, independent, cold, distrustful, closed, harsh, critical. When a man and a woman feel bad about themselves, then the relationships created by such people are also unsatisfactory. Thus the eternal circle of cause and effect turns. Like a fairy tale without end. Tantra practices help to break out of this vicious circle. Men become more and more self-confident, and women, feeling safe, become gentle, loving and inspiring. The circle turns again, only that circle is harmonious, full of care, compassion, understanding, inspiring, nurturing and nurturing. A completely different world is being created. In such a world, children also grow up differently.
· In Tantra, we will explore the relationship between a man and a woman. We delve into masculinity and femininity, into those things that help these two absolutely different poles to get along with each other. With the help of various practices, we will see about ourselves, we will see what we act from in life, where all this has already become habits. We will see what influences, what are the reasons, that at the present time our relationships, ourselves with ourselves, our lives are not what we long for.
· No matter how hard it is to admit it, very often we are "injured" in childhood, because we did not receive the kind of love that would help us grow up to be full-fledged, confident, loving, valuable, courageously living the way we want. Each of us carries with us beliefs about family, money, people, the body created from childhood, and with these beliefs we come to relationships, to work, to society... It becomes like a secret contact, full of hopes, wishes, expectations, through which we hope to create a blissful life. life. However, these hopes are intertwined with unlived childhood experiences. Therefore, in Tantra we will deepen the relationship with the Fathers. Have you heard that the foundation of everything is a good relationship with the Father?
With each practice of tantra, we become more firmly grounded, our inner value backbone becomes stronger, we become freer in expressing our opinions, more open in showing our feelings, more sincere towards ourselves and those around us. When grievances are cleansed, negative feelings and emotions are released, only then does the heart begin to be worthy. Then we allow true love to come and spread. Relationships go to a whole other level because we get out of deficit relationship mode. Then you not only want, but already have something to give to others.
At what age can one practice Tantra?
There is no age limit.
How Tantra differs from other paths:
· a partner can be used for self-knowledge;
· Tantra does not deny or reject anything;
· no need for secession - go to clans;
· In Tantra, one of the first steps is to become aware of the sensations in the body;
Who can practice Tantra?
Many believe that Tantra can only be practiced with a partner, or that sexual energy is necessarily practiced, but this is not the case. Of the 112 meditations, only a few are related to sexuality. Tantra practices usually teach how to use your five senses: touch or feeling, sight, hearing, taste, and smell to develop introspection, sensuality, wisdom until the essence of personality and cosmos is clearly revealed. Tantra does not impose any beliefs or "how it should be", it provides methods with which everyone can experiment independently and thus discover their own truths.
It's great when practiced with a loved one because it can go very deep. However, it is possible to practice Tantra in solitude.
During tantra practices, the process is only accelerated, and it gains real momentum already after leaving the door of the hall. This process is profoundly transformative. Many wonderful things happen: expectations of other people decrease, awareness of relationships with others increases, attachments decrease, and the ability to let go comes little by little. Let go of situations that go on and on like movies. Let go of the hurts that have been poisoning us for many years. Let go of people who are no longer with us for a long time. Let go of expectations of who should love what and how and finally realize that if that person doesn't love us the way we want, it doesn't mean that he doesn't love us with all his heart. When we learn to let go, our self-esteem grows, we gain the courage to create a life guided by our own beliefs and values, not imposed opinions from the environment. We gain the courage to say NO and - the determination to finally say YES to life!
